Let's just universally admit that we've all missed people or things or places at some point in our lives; there's no purpose in denying it. Whether it be friends, family, an ex, or even an old house, we have all experienced the feeling of longing to see someone or be somewhere. The situations humans have been through are all different, and the reasons for missing these people may vary significantly from individual to individual.
Missing someone or longing for something is an inner recognition of the loss or absence of someone or something very near and dear and genuinely significant to the individual. It is an emotional and affective value that can remain a memory that catches attention and thought. Missing someone or something is comparable to wanting something unattainable at that moment.
The memories of the phenomena live within hurting individual and plays a significant role in leaving empty space within themselves. These memories may leave people in tears or bring them joy for having experienced these memories, which they can now cherish. At times, being aware that all you have left is the person's memories and not being able to see them can trigger a different kind of pain.
The loss of friends, family, or even pets can induce a considerable sense of missing. Still, as time passes, the memory is filled with typically good instances with the lost individual, creating a sense of happiness. A similar case is if someone close to you moves away and you know you won't be able to meet them, but the memories live within you and keep you grateful for having met them.
Since we've established that the emotion of yearning for someone is undergone by all, and what exactly the feeling of missing is, let's ask why?
Why do we miss things?
Those on the Quora platform believe that people miss things and other human beings or even animals due to the created emotional connections. Humans are said to be missing others when they feel as though they would have enjoyed their present scenario with the presence of that other entity.
Missing things generates a feeling of continuity in humans. The absent things create a feeling of wanting them to last and endure longer. When this is not possible, people discover that it is no longer available, in addition to realizing that they have to live a new way and with another presence and density.
Redditors talk about missing people due to the connections we create with them. They say these connections are never indeed severed once separated.
"For every person who leaves us, or we leave behind, we take a piece of them with us."
The memories of the people, place or thing stick with the individuals until they fade away in due time. And due to this, people miss what they thought were the good moments with the aspect they miss.
When missing people or things, there is quite often a reason behind it. More often than one thinks, the feeling of missing people arises due to being reminded of them. Perhaps a smell or seeing something familiar as you walk down the street. It’s quite funny how the human brain works. You eat a mint, and it has the potential of reminding you of some great memories you had with someone.
The point is, even though there is no direct or significant motive for people to be reminded of the things they miss, coming across something even remotely close to the person can trigger feelings of ache. Fascinating how the smallest, most random things bring back memories you completely forgot.
If we had no memory of the person or thing, we would experience no pain.
What do you pick? A painless life with no good memories of people, places, or things, or a life with great memories you can look back at, but with a heavy heart. Let us know in the comments!